As I reflect on the journey of life, there are many stages a girl goes through in gaining the wisdom of her mother. Guys also go through similar stages, though there are some significant differences. As Mother’s Day draws to a close and graduation approaches, consider these 7 stages–
Stage 1: Graduating high school AND moving out of the nest (this could be to college dorm life or a job and own apartment or the military). At this stage, we realize much of what our mothers did for us because now we have to do it ourselves.
Stage 2: Getting married. At this stage, we realize that not only did Mom take care of us, but long before we were around (while we were around, and after we left, too) Mom took care of Dad (often putting his needs above her own).
Stage 3: Having the first baby (and subsequent babies). At this stage, we understand what it is like for someone to be totally helpless and dependent upon us. We also realize the many thankless tasks…and tasks not even Dad would do (some that he couldn’t do) were done by Mom.
Stage 4: Watching children grow up (particularly the teen years). At this stage, we realize Mom and Dad really were very wise—-and deserved less of the bad stuff we dished out and more appreciation than we gave.
Stage 5: Watching children leave the nest and try to fly. At this stage, we realize how much prayer is needed (and often given) by mom on our behalf. College, career, and relationship choices that young adults struggle with are often met with many prayers and tears by a mom on her knees.
Stage 6: Becoming a grandparent. At this stage, I observe it in my parents and a little in my husband who tends to grandparent our daughter who we adopted 4 years ago–I imagine it has to do with great knowledge and insight and patience and freedom that you don’t have when you are a young mom going through mothering for the first time. My first grandchild was born in February 2012.
Stage 7: I imagine the final stage has to do with saying good-bye to your mom and perhaps realizing a few more things you wished you had given tribute to while she was still alive….or asked for her wisdom about…to pass on to your children and grandchildren.
Proverbs 16:31–Gray hair is a crown of splendor; it is attained by a righteous life.
Proverbs 1:8–Listen, my son, to your father’s instruction and do not forsake your mother’s teaching.